“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
As I near another milestone in my life and my marriage, I keep meaning to take time to reflect on and acknowledge all the people and experiences I am grateful for in this life. Although I often find myself thinking about how very lucky I am to be healthy, happy and surrounded by such amazing friends and family, I sometimes wonder if I express my feelings enough. As time passes, the little moments can get lost in the fray, yet it is the little moments that mean so much.
I think it is extremely important for people to give thanks for their loved ones. So many times, we take each other for granted, believing that our relationships are a static part of life, rather than an always evolving dance. It saddens me to think of strong, vibrant relationships I had in the past, but did not take the time to put effort into keeping them alive. I mourn the loss of loved ones who have passed on and wonder if they knew how much I cared for them.
Right now, I have so much on my plate – I am working full time, taking an intensive yoga training, and trying to be a good wife and friend – I feel as if I am neglecting some of my most important relationships. This thought led me to think of little ways we can show each other we care, no matter how much time we have on our hands.
- Send a handwritten note. Honestly, it takes only a few minutes to jot a quick hello. Text messages and email will never hold the same weight for me as a personalized letter or message, even if the written prose is more brief.
- Hold your friend’s hand when you see them. It might feel a little funny at first, but I remember the joy I felt as a child, holding hands with my besties and skipping along.
- Pick up the check. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but generosity can be a powerful tool to show someone you care.
- Let your friend pick up the check. Say thank you and remember to reciprocate.
- When you do talk to your loved one, listen. Ask questions. Truly hear them. Just being on the phone or in each other’s company is not enough. We all change every day in little ways. If we don’t keep up with each other’s lives, we may eventually grow apart.
I can think of other little ways to share my feelings, but these are a good start. I would love to hear how you nourish your relationships and take time to show gratitude for everyday life. I am off to write a couple notes while I have the time.